Should I leave a toxic relationship

Should I Leave a Toxic Relationship?

    Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave a toxic or addicted partner is especially hard. You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get […]

Parenting When You're Codependent Breaking the Cycle of Codependency

Parenting When You Are Codependent: Breaking the Cycle

This post contains an affiliate link.   Childhood trauma has lasting effects Many people who experienced childhood trauma continue to feel the effects of the trauma in adulthood. As a way to cope with the trauma, you may have developed codependent traits such as: trying to fix or rescue others, acting like a martyr, perfectionism, overworking, […]

5 Triggers that Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse, substance abuse relapse, alcoholism, codependency

5 Triggers That Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse

Overcoming any addiction requires a lifelong commitment to recovery. The road is a long one, and for many people, the prospect of seeking treatment is a bleak one. According to the American Addiction Centers, up to 90% of the people who struggle with addiction do not receive the treatment they need. Even those people who […]

How to Discover What's Fun for You

How to Discover What’s Fun for You (and Why It Matters)

We all like different things, so it only goes to follow that what’s fun for others isn’t necessarily fun for you. You can live more authentically when you discover what’s fun for you.   Living authentically Living authentically means being true to yourself, having a strong sense of who you are, and behaving in ways […]

40 Self Help Books Recommended by my Readers on trauma, parenting, personal development, spirituality

40 Self-Help Books Recommended by my Readers

This post contains affiliate links.   I love a good self-help or personal development book. And summer is the perfect time to catch up on some reading. The only problem is there are so many great self-help books to choose from! This list was compiled from suggestions from my amazing Facebook fans. I’m sure you’ll […]

Generational Effects of Codependency. Codependency is passed down from generation to generation. It's possible to be codependent if you had a normal childhood.

The Generational Effects of Codependency

  Codependency is most often the result of childhood trauma.  But many readers have written to me, confused because they’re codependent and had a “normal” childhood. “I don’t understand why I’m codependent. I’ve read your posts, but I didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional family. How did this happen?” “Is it possible to be codependent […]

Treat Yourself Like a Toddler and Other Tips for Those Who Struggle with Self-Care. A guide to self-care for codependents and those who struggle with self-care. Learn the difference between self-care and indulgence.

Treat Yourself Like a Toddler (and Other Tips for Those Who Struggle with Self-Care)

  Do you struggle with self-care? Self-care is especially hard for those who grew up in dysfunctional families and/or developed codependent traits. Codependents struggle with self-care because they tend to focus on other people’s feelings, needs, and problems, and take care of others, often at their own expense. Part of changing these patterns is shifting […]

Mindfulness as a Tool for Self-Acceptance. Learn to love and accept yourself using mindfulness.

Mindfulness as a Tool for Self-Acceptance

What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is the practice of staying in the moment, of being in the here and now rather than focused on the past or the future. Many of us aren’t fully experiencing our lives because we’re spending so much time worrying about the future or ruminating about the past. Our busy lives keep […]

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. Learn three tips to end comparison and feel good about yourself.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: 3 Tips for Letting Go of Comparing

How to stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison feels bad. In high school, my older sister was very popular and athletic. I was neither of those things. I realize now that I had plenty of strengths, too, but at the time they didn’t make up for my lack of social standing or athletic prowess. Every […]

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics to heal and recover from toxic parents, codependency, trauma, and abuse.

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics

This post contains affiliate links.     After my recent blog post about growing up in an alcoholic family, I got a lot of requests for additional reading suggestions. We are fortunate that there are many helpful books for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) on healing codependency, trauma, and relationship challenges. Below are some of […]