Should I leave a toxic relationship

Should I Leave a Toxic Relationship?

    Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave a toxic or addicted partner is especially hard. You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get […]

5 Triggers that Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse, substance abuse relapse, alcoholism, codependency

5 Triggers That Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse

Overcoming any addiction requires a lifelong commitment to recovery. The road is a long one, and for many people, the prospect of seeking treatment is a bleak one. According to the American Addiction Centers, up to 90% of the people who struggle with addiction do not receive the treatment they need. Even those people who […]

How to Discover What's Fun for You

How to Discover What’s Fun for You (and Why It Matters)

We all like different things, so it only goes to follow that what’s fun for others isn’t necessarily fun for you. You can live more authentically when you discover what’s fun for you.   Living authentically Living authentically means being true to yourself, having a strong sense of who you are, and behaving in ways […]

Generational Effects of Codependency. Codependency is passed down from generation to generation. It's possible to be codependent if you had a normal childhood.

The Generational Effects of Codependency

  Codependency is most often the result of childhood trauma.  But many readers have written to me, confused because they’re codependent and had a “normal” childhood. “I don’t understand why I’m codependent. I’ve read your posts, but I didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional family. How did this happen?” “Is it possible to be codependent […]

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics to heal and recover from toxic parents, codependency, trauma, and abuse.

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics

This post contains affiliate links.     After my recent blog post about growing up in an alcoholic family, I got a lot of requests for additional reading suggestions. We are fortunate that there are many helpful books for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) on healing codependency, trauma, and relationship challenges. Below are some of […]

Are you stuck in the codependency maze? Find solutions in self-help codependency recovery book.

Are You Stuck in the Codependency Maze?

  Are you drawn to people with serious problems, who tend to “under function”? Do you feel lonely in your relationships? Do you feel like no one listens to you or no one cares about you? Are you tired of having the same arguments over and over again? Do you feel invisible or insignificant? Do […]

6 Benefits of Setting Boundaries

6 Benefits of Setting Boundaries

  Boundaries are rules or guidelines that you create to show others how to treat you. Relationships work best when we are clear about our expectations and needs. We can show ourselves and others respect by setting clear, consistent boundaries.   Setting boundaries is a struggle for a lot of people. I’m not going to […]

Why You Should Stop Trying to Please Everyone

6 Big Problems with People-Pleasing (and How to Stop Trying to Please Everyone)

Kyle is a classic people-pleaser. He’s been dating Lucy for four years and hopes to marry her. From the beginning, Lucy has been clear that she wants Kyle to attend church with her and finish college.  Kyle isn’t particularly interested in church and isn’t sure he even believes in God, but be attends every week. He flunked out of college […]