What is Codependency?

What is Codependency?

    Codependency is often misunderstood. It’s not just a label to slap on the spouse of every alcoholic. It encompasses a wide-range of behavior and thought patterns that cause people distress to varying degrees. I hope this article will help clear up some of the misconceptions about codependency and help you to understand codependency better.   […]

How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self and Not Lose Yourself in Relationships

How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self and Not Lose Yourself in Relationships

Losing your sense of self Do you seem to get swallowed up in relationships? Does your sense of self disappear when you’re in a relationship? This “loss of self” happens, whether you’ve been married for decades or are newly dating, when the other person or relationship becomes your identity. You become all about the other person. […]

How to Set Boundaries with Toxic People

How to Set Boundaries with Toxic People

  It isn’t easy to set boundaries with toxic people, but it’s something we can all learn to do and when we do, it’s empowering.   Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. When we set boundaries, we’re less angry and resentful because our needs are getting met. Boundaries make our expectations clear, […]

Tips for Coping with the Holidays. 5 printable PDF tip sheets to help you conquer perfectionism, difficult family members, stress, overwhelm, and depression.

Tips for Coping with the Holidays

    Introducing 5 New Holiday Tip Sheets from Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert Sharon Martin, LCSW   Are you dreading the holidays because of difficult people in your life? Do you tend to get stressed, sad, or overwhelmed during December? Do you want to set a positive tone for the holiday season? Would it be […]

Should I leave a toxic relationship

Should I Leave a Toxic Relationship?

Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave a toxic or addicted partner is especially hard. You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get better (or […]

5 Triggers that Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse, substance abuse relapse, alcoholism, codependency

5 Triggers That Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse

Overcoming any addiction requires a lifelong commitment to recovery. The road is a long one, and for many people, the prospect of seeking treatment is a bleak one. According to the American Addiction Centers, up to 90% of the people who struggle with addiction do not receive the treatment they need. Even those people who […]

How to Discover What's Fun for You

How to Discover What’s Fun for You (and Why It Matters)

We all like different things, so it only goes to follow that what’s fun for others isn’t necessarily fun for you. You can live more authentically when you discover what’s fun for you.   Living authentically Living authentically means being true to yourself, having a strong sense of who you are, and behaving in ways […]

Generational Effects of Codependency. Codependency is passed down from generation to generation. It's possible to be codependent if you had a normal childhood.

The Generational Effects of Codependency

Codependency is most often the result of childhood trauma.  But many readers have written to me, confused because they’re codependent and had a “normal” childhood. “I don’t understand why I’m codependent. I’ve read your posts, but I didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional family. How did this happen?” “Is it possible to be codependent if […]

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics to heal and recover from toxic parents, codependency, trauma, and abuse.

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics

This post contains affiliate links.     After my recent blog post about growing up in an alcoholic family, I got a lot of requests for additional reading suggestions. We are fortunate that there are many helpful books for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) on healing codependency, trauma, and relationship challenges. Below are some of […]

Are you stuck in the codependency maze? Find solutions in self-help codependency recovery book.

Are You Stuck in the Codependency Maze?

  Are you drawn to people with serious problems, who tend to “under function”? Do you feel lonely in your relationships? Do you feel like no one listens to you or no one cares about you? Are you tired of having the same arguments over and over again? Do you feel invisible or insignificant? Do […]