Release Mother's Day Guilt. Moms can give up mother's day guilt, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and reclaim mother's day.

Release Mother’s Day Guilt

  Moms, you deserve to reclaim Mother’s Day and make it a day that truly makes you happy. Mother’s Day is often filled with angst and guilt and conflict. Mothers are particularly good at taking care of everyone else, wanting to please people, keep the peace, and simply putting themselves last. And some Moms have […]

How to Reclaim Your Self Worth

How to Reclaim Your Self-Worth

  Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve […]

A woman learning to love herself with self-compassion

How to Love Yourself: 22 Simple Ideas

  Before anybody else can love you, you have to love yourself You’ve heard this many times before. But what does it mean to love yourself? And how do you actually love yourself? For various reasons, many of us find it easier to love others than to love ourselves. Sometimes we’re truly quite awful to […]

What is Codependency?

What is Codependency?

    Codependency is often misunderstood. It’s not just a label to slap on the spouse of every alcoholic. It encompasses a wide-range of behavior and thought patterns that cause people distress to varying degrees. I hope this article will help clear up some of the misconceptions about codependency and help you to understand codependency better.   […]

5 Simple Ways to Practice Self Compassion

5 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Compassion

  Are you self-critical? It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-criticism. Often, we don’t even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves with harsh criticisms that we’d never use towards others.   Self-criticism becomes hardwired into your brain Self-criticism is like a bad habit – the more we do it, the more it gets […]

How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self and Not Lose Yourself in Relationships

How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self and Not Lose Yourself in Relationships

Losing your sense of self Do you seem to get swallowed up in relationships? Does your sense of self disappear when you’re in a relationship? This “loss of self” happens, whether you’ve been married for decades or are newly dating, when the other person or relationship becomes your identity. You become all about the other person. […]

Tips for Coping with the Holidays. 5 printable PDF tip sheets to help you conquer perfectionism, difficult family members, stress, overwhelm, and depression.

Tips for Coping with the Holidays

    Introducing 5 New Holiday Tip Sheets from Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert Sharon Martin, LCSW   Are you dreading the holidays because of difficult people in your life? Do you tend to get stressed, sad, or overwhelmed during December? Do you want to set a positive tone for the holiday season? Would it be […]

How to Discover What's Fun for You

How to Discover What’s Fun for You (and Why It Matters)

We all like different things, so it only goes to follow that what’s fun for others isn’t necessarily fun for you. You can live more authentically when you discover what’s fun for you.   Living authentically Living authentically means being true to yourself, having a strong sense of who you are, and behaving in ways […]

Why You Should Stop Trying to Please Everyone

6 Big Problems with People-Pleasing (and How to Stop Trying to Please Everyone)

  Kyle is a classic people-pleaser. He’s been dating Lucy for four years and hopes to marry her. From the beginning, Lucy has been clear that she wants Kyle to attend church with her and finish college.  Kyle isn’t particularly interested in church and isn’t sure he even believes in God, but he attends every week. He flunked out of […]