The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us (and 6 Truths Every Perfectionist Needs to Know)

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The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us. Myths about perfectionism lead us to believe perfectionism is an asset.

  Perfectionism seems straightforward, but it’s often misunderstood. Many people think perfectionism helps them achieve their goals and get better results. American culture continues to encourage perfectionism despite all of the research that indicates perfectionism is associated with increased anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, eating disorders, relationship and health problems.* The fallacy that perfectionism is helpful […]

A Therapist’s Guide to Stop Overthinking

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A Therapist's Guide to Stop Overthinking and Worrying #anxiety #worry #overthinking

What is overthinking? Do you spend countless hours rehashing mistakes you made? Do you worry about what others think of you? Do you struggle to make decisions — and get caught up in excessive researching in an effort to make the right decision? This is overthinking — a form of uncontrollable worry or rumination. It […]

Is Perfectionism Sabotaging Your Self-Care?

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Is perfectionism sabotaging your self-care? Don't let guilt and perfectionism impede your self-care.

  Perfectionists suck at self-care. We’re much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we’re so busy that we don’t even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we’re “good enough” is destroying our mental and physical health. Are You a Perfectionist? Perfectionists have impossibly high […]

Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

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Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships. What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you emotionally. Children […]

6 Ways to Change All-Or-Nothing Thinking

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6 Ways to Change All-or-Nothing Thinking and Cognitive Distortions

Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish. Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling […]

How to Make Changes That Last

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The new year is a natural time to make changes and create new habits. We love the idea of making a fresh start in January, but most of us end up frustrated and disappointed just a few weeks into the new year. We all know from experience that putting ourselves on a radical budget or […]

How to Avoid Other People’s Drama

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How to Avoid Other People's Drama

We all know a person or two who’s overly dramatic. Perhaps it’s your mother or cousin, your coworker, or your neighbor. It’s draining to spend time with people who exude negative energy, always seem to have a problem or crisis, and demand your attention. Often, overly dramatic people, such as these, want to suck you […]

6 Things You Can Say “No” to This Christmas

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6 Things You Can Say No to this Christmas

    As Christmas and the New Year approach, it’s easy to get caught up in the frenzy — the sense that you must do more, spend more, be more. All of this pressure and unrealistic expectations can make it hard to fully enjoy the holidays. It keeps us busy and distracted from what matters […]