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40 More Self-Help Books About Codependency and Healthy Relationships

Best Self Help Books about Codependency, Healthy Relationships, Adult Children, Dysfunctional Families


Summer is upon us -- and if you’re lucky, your schedule will lighten up a bit and allow you to enjoy a few long weekends away from work or some quiet evenings on the porch relaxing with a good book. Summer is always a great time to catch up on some reading.

I’m a self-help book junkie, but I can’t keep up with all the great personal development titles. So, I once again surveyed my Facebook fans for their best self-help book suggestions (you can find last year's suggested reading list here). This list will be particularly relevant to those of you struggling with or wanting to learn more about codependency, adult child of alcoholic issues, trauma recovery, perfectionism, boundaries, self-worth, and healthy relationships.


Codependency Self Help Books

40 More Self-Help Books Recommended by my Readers


Dysfunctional Families

  1. Another Chance: Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse
  2. [amazon_textlink asin='1615193820' text='The Emotionally Absent Mother' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='53eaebab-62b4-11e8-9a7d-f175b4ca8703'] by Jasmin Lee Cori



  1. [amazon_textlink asin='1683506731' text='Running on Empty No More' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='6b3c764f-62b4-11e8-9ad9-bfb2aa753a48'] by Jonice Webb
  2. [amazon_textlink asin='0735290172' text='How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='7b4588ed-62b4-11e8-82b5-bf7b131abe86'] by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
  3. Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  4. [amazon_textlink asin='B00ZT1DK1Q' text='Loving Him without Losing You: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='af4f86cb-62b4-11e8-998d-09083e2f8b80'] by Beverly Engel
  5. [amazon_textlink asin='0553382497' text='How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When and Why Love Doesn’t Work' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='c8220c89-62b4-11e8-9feb-d33501b8537a'] by Howard Halpern
  6. [amazon_textlink asin='B004JLU0ZQ' text='Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up In Order to Move Forward' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='d3fe8cc5-62b4-11e8-af88-8ffc09da87b8'] by Henry Cloud
  7. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
  8. Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix


Codependency and Boundaries

  1. [amazon_textlink asin='0060928972' text='Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You ' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='3023e000-62b5-11e8-b488-4dc214a2bea6']by Susan Forward
  2. The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap by Ross Rosenberg
  3. [amazon_textlink asin='0785263756' text='Love is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='4e9c2ae2-62b5-11e8-a9b4-7da861764a35'] by Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, and Paul Meier
  4. [amazon_textlink asin='0894866370' text='The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='5ed35229-62b5-11e8-812a-0119c49cd5c2'] by Melody Beattie
  5. [amazon_textlink asin='099959351X' text='Out of the Fog: Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='6c303018-62b5-11e8-8bfb-cf8073e7d4bb'] by Dana Morningstar


For Women

  1. Wild Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
  2. [amazon_textlink asin='1558749527' text='Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='a99e0c60-62b5-11e8-9507-0148f071b9b6'] by Robert Ackerman
  3. [amazon_textlink asin='1439129436' text='Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='b53f30b8-62b5-11e8-8dc5-2ba2256b77aa'] by Karyl McBride


For Men

  1. [amazon_textlink asin='0684835398' text='I Don’t Want to Talk about It' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='5bf9885d-62b6-11e8-977b-414ea950d242'] by Terrence Real
  2. [amazon_textlink asin='067189286X' text='Silent Sons' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='6708a648-62b6-11e8-9d50-9302a4d5acc8'] by Robert Ackerman


Trauma and Healing

  1. [amazon_textlink asin='1492871842' text='Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='7203c717-62b6-11e8-be1d-73b00ce8b48b'] by Pete Walker
  2. [amazon_textlink asin='0671701355' text='Recovery of Your Inner Child ' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='7a94014e-62b6-11e8-abd5-a7560edc1b1c']by Lucia Capacchione
  3. [amazon_textlink asin='0757303234' text='Healing the Shame that Binds You' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='8b5910f8-62b6-11e8-9032-d747feb7e41f'] by John Bradshaw


Spirituality and Personal Growth

  1. [amazon_textlink asin='1878424319' text='The Four Agreements' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='ab857506-62b6-11e8-8bdd-3787556793b8'] by Don Miguel Ruiz
  2. [amazon_textlink asin='0310342996' text='Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Life' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='b857ece3-62b6-11e8-9a41-d161f92b5b0a'] by Shauna Niequist
  3. [amazon_textlink asin='1611803438' text='When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='fce3af4e-62b6-11e8-8681-f39ffba3d126'] by Pema Chodron
  4. [amazon_textlink asin='1577314808' text='The Power of Now' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='0ca46e7a-62b7-11e8-92e2-1da382feb5bf'] by Eckhart Tolle
  5. [amazon_textlink asin='B01LX5SDDI' text='Peace Within: Clear Your Mind, Open Your Heart, Embrace Your Soul and Heal Your Life' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='1b9cfbc6-62b7-11e8-aa61-9d74f3dad014'] by Michael Brant DeMaria
  6. [amazon_textlink asin='1775111202' text='Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home' template='ProductLink' store='shamarcouperg-20' marketplace='US' link_id='269758c6-62b7-11e8-a156-8fdd1122df7a'] by Toko-pa Turner



  1. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns
  2. Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them by Tina Gilbertson
  3. On Becoming a Person by Carl Rogers
  4. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
  5. It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self by Hilary Jacobs Hendel
  6. The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine Aron
  7. Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness by Rick Hanson
  8. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics by Dan Harris
  9. The Mindful Day: Practical Ways to Find Focus, Calm, and Joy From Morning to Evening by Laurie Cameron
  10. Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing by Anita Moorjani
  11. The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris


Do you have a favorite self-help book? Perhaps you’ve read something recently that was instrumental to your personal growth and recovery. If you’d like to add a suggestion, please put it in the comments below.

You can also find last year’s list of self-help book recommendations here. And you can print a PDF copy of the entire list (80 self-help books) here.

I hope you have a wonderful summer with lots of time for reading and self-care!

©2018 Sharon Martin, LCSW. All rights reserved.
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Sharon Martin is a psychotherapist, writer, speaker, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. She specializes in helping people uncover their inherent worth and learn to accept themselves -- imperfections and all! Sharon writes a popular blog called Happily Imperfect for and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance and several ebooks including Navigating the Codependency Maze.

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