How to Reparent Yourself

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How to Reparent Yourself

  Are you self-critical and overly harsh with yourself? Or are you too permissive with yourself – not setting limits and allowing yourself to do things that are unhealthy or unsafe? Do you ignore your feelings, have trouble expressing your needs or regulating your emotions? Is it hard to treat yourself with love and compassion? […]

17 Ways to Validate Yourself

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Ways to validate yourself

  It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated. It’s normal to want validation from others – your parents, spouse, boss, friends — but some of us seek external validation to an unhealthy level. We rely on others to make […]

13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed Family

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13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed Family

  Being close to your family is usually a good thing, but it’s possible to be too close. Enmeshment describes family relationships that lack boundaries such that roles and expectations are confused, parents are overly and inappropriately reliant on their children for support, and children are not allowed to become emotionally independent or separate from […]

How Codependents Can Step Into Their Circle of Control

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  Codependents often focus on other people and their problems – sometimes getting obsessed with or fixated on helping or fixing things outside of their control. Not only can this lead to self-neglect, but it’s also frustrating and largely a waste of time and energy. Instead of focusing on things that we can’t control or […]

Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

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Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

  Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships.   What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you […]

10 Ways to Free Yourself from Toxic Parents

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  In my last post, I shared 15 Signs You Have a Toxic Parent. Awareness is a great place to begin, but if you have toxic parents, what you really want to know is how to cope with their crazy-making.   How are your toxic parents impacting your life? Toxic parents can make your life […]

15 Signs You Have a Toxic Parent

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Signs You Have a Toxic Parent #toxic #parent #dysfunctional #difficult #ACA #narcissistic

  No one has a perfect relationship with their parents or in-laws.   If you’re lucky you have a positive and healthy relationship with your parents most of the time. Unfortunately, for some people – those with toxic parents – this isn’t possible. No matter how hard you try, you can’t have a mutually satisfying […]