Choose Excellence Not Perfection

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Choose Excellence Not Perfection

  The difference between excellence and perfection People often confuse perfectionism with excellence. When we strive for excellence, we have high standards. And in general, there’s nothing wrong with having high standards. In fact, it can be a good thing. High standards can encourage us to make improvements, solve problems and do quality work. Perfectionism, […]

34 Affirmations for Perfectionism

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Affirmations can help change perfectionist thinking

  What is perfectionism? Perfectionism – the relentless pursuit of being flawless in an effort to prove our worth and avoid criticism — adds unnecessary stress and pressure to our already demanding lives. When we strive for perfection rather than excellence, we’re never satisfied. We always feel deficient because we’re comparing ourselves to an impossible […]

The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us (and 6 Truths Every Perfectionist Needs to Know)

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The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us. Myths about perfectionism lead us to believe perfectionism is an asset.

  Perfectionism seems straightforward, but it’s often misunderstood. Many people think perfectionism helps them achieve their goals and get better results. American culture continues to encourage perfectionism despite all of the research that indicates perfectionism is associated with increased anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, eating disorders, relationship and health problems.* The fallacy that perfectionism is helpful […]

Is Perfectionism Sabotaging Your Self-Care?

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Is perfectionism sabotaging your self-care? Don't let guilt and perfectionism impede your self-care.

  Perfectionists suck at self-care. We’re much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we’re so busy that we don’t even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we’re “good enough” is destroying our mental and physical health. Are You a Perfectionist? Perfectionists have impossibly high […]

6 Ways to Change All-Or-Nothing Thinking

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6 Ways to Change All-or-Nothing Thinking and Cognitive Distortions

Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish. Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling […]

How to Make Changes That Last

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The new year is a natural time to make changes and create new habits. We love the idea of making a fresh start in January, but most of us end up frustrated and disappointed just a few weeks into the new year. We all know from experience that putting ourselves on a radical budget or […]

Perfectionism and OCD: What’s the Difference?

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What's the Difference Between Perfectionism and OCD? Understand Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Perfectionism, and Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

I’m often asked what the difference is between perfectionism and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). It’s actually a fairly complex question and one that realistically this article will only be able to address on the surface. This article isn’t meant to diagnose any mental conditions and isn’t an exhaustive study of OCD or any other mental […]

6 Effective Ways to Deal with Criticism

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6 Effective Ways to Deal with Criticism

Nobody likes criticism, but some of us are particularly sensitive to it. Do you take it personally if your boss tells you to be quiet during a meeting? Does it ruin your day if someone gives you a judgmental glare when your child throws a tantrum? Do you feel like a failure when a  client rejects […]