What Is An Avoidant Attachment Style?

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What is an avoidant attachment?

    Approximately 25% of us have an Avoidant Attachment Style.   In my earlier post, What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I explained the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) identified by psychologist Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s. Understanding your attachment style can help you create happier, healthier adult […]

What Is An Anxious Attachment Style?

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Anxious Attachment

  In my previous post, What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does It Matter?, I gave you an overview of the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how attachment styles become the blueprint for our adult romantic relationships. Securely attached people tend to have happier, longer lasting relationships built on trust. They […]

What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does It Matter?

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What's my attachment style?

If you’re in an unhappy relationship, feel stuck in a pattern of failed relationships, or can’t seem to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right, your attachment style may be the reason. We all learn about human relationships from our first relationships – those with our parents or primary caregivers. Understanding your attachment style can help you […]

Coping with Loneliness

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Coping with Loneliness

Coping with Loneliness: How to Reconnect with Yourself and Others Is loneliness becoming more pervasive? I’m not sure, but sometimes it seems that way. We’re all so busy that it can be hard to make time to socialize and prioritize face-to-face relationship building time. Many of us don’t have a sense of community or even […]

How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self in Relationships

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How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self and Not Lose Yourself in Relationships

Losing your sense of self Do you seem to get swallowed up in relationships? Does your sense of self disappear when you’re in a relationship? This “loss of self” happens, whether you’ve been married for decades or are newly dating, when the other person or relationship becomes your identity. You become all about the other person. […]

Should I Leave a Toxic Relationship?

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Should I leave a toxic relationship

  Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave a toxic or addicted partner is especially hard. You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get better […]

5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Family Relationships

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5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Family Relationships

  Everyone I know is busy! It’s hard NOT to cram our schedules to the brim with our kids’ activities, volunteer projects, work, religious services, and social engagements! We all know that it’s easy to let our family relationships (whether with our partners or quality time with our kids) slide to last priority. Often the […]

6 Effective Ways to Deal with Criticism

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6 Effective Ways to Deal with Criticism

Nobody likes criticism, but some of us are particularly sensitive to it. Do you take it personally if your boss tells you to be quiet during a meeting? Does it ruin your day if someone gives you a judgmental glare when your child throws a tantrum? Do you feel like a failure when a  client rejects […]