Would you like to increase your self-esteem in 2020? Do you want to reduce codependency and perfectionism and treat yourself with more compassion? Even though nothing magically changes on January 1st, most of us like the idea of a fresh start. And the start of a new year is a natural time to look […]
It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated. It’s normal to want validation from others – your parents, spouse, boss, friends — but some of us seek external validation to an unhealthy level. We rely on others to make […]
Codependent thinking and behaviors can sabotage our health, happiness, and relationships. Here are some examples: Codependents neglect themselves in order to take care of others. Codependents lose their individuality trying to please others. Codependents don’t ask for what we need – and often don’t know what they want or need. Codependents get obsessed with other […]
Have you been short-changing yourself on self-care, saying critical or hurtful things to yourself, or setting unrealistic expectations for yourself? Are you ready to embrace your worthiness and start treating yourself with love? Why You Need Self-Love Loving ourselves and prioritizing our needs is often very challenging. Unfortunately, many of us didn’t receive […]
Are you quick to blame yourself – even for things you didn’t do or couldn’t control? When things go wrong, is your immediate response “it’s all my fault” or “I shouldn’t have done that”? For many of us, self-blame and criticism are insidious. We’re unrelenting with our demands and expectations and we’re our own […]
Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve believed […]
Before anybody else can love you, you have to love yourself You’ve heard this many times before. But what does it mean to love yourself? And how do you actually love yourself? For various reasons, many of us find it easier to love others than to love ourselves. Sometimes we’re truly quite awful to […]
Are you self-critical? It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-criticism. Often, we don’t even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves with harsh criticisms that we’d never use towards others. Self-criticism becomes hardwired into your brain Self-criticism is like a bad habit – the more we do it, the more it gets […]
This post contains affiliate links. If you’re like me, you can’t get enough Brené Brown! I love her books, Ted Talks, and her videos on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday. And I especially love all of the inspiring Brene Brown quotes. She offers such wisdom, truth, and authenticity on difficult subjects like shame, vulnerability, and self-acceptance. I’m sure you’ll […]
How to stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison feels bad. In high school, my older sister was very popular and athletic. I was neither of those things. I realize now that I had plenty of strengths, too, but at the time they didn’t make up for my lack of social standing or athletic prowess. Every […]