Are you quick to blame yourself – even for things you didn’t do or couldn’t control? When things go wrong, is your immediate response “it’s all my fault” or “I shouldn’t have done that”? For many of us, self-blame and criticism are insidious. We’re unrelenting with our demands and expectations and we’re our own […]
Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve believed […]
Before anybody else can love you, you have to love yourself You’ve heard this many times before. But what does it mean to love yourself? And how do you actually love yourself? For various reasons, many of us find it easier to love others than to love ourselves. Sometimes we’re truly quite awful to […]
Are you self-critical? It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-criticism. Often, we don’t even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves with harsh criticisms that we’d never use towards others. Self-criticism becomes hardwired into your brain Self-criticism is like a bad habit – the more we do it, the more it gets […]
This post contains affiliate links. If you’re like me, you can’t get enough Brené Brown! I love her books, Ted Talks, and her videos on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday. And I especially love all of the inspiring Brene Brown quotes. She offers such wisdom, truth, and authenticity on difficult subjects like shame, vulnerability, and self-acceptance. I’m sure you’ll […]
How to stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison feels bad. In high school, my older sister was very popular and athletic. I was neither of those things. I realize now that I had plenty of strengths, too, but at the time they didn’t make up for my lack of social standing or athletic prowess. Every […]