Would you like to increase your self-esteem in 2020? Do you want to reduce codependency and perfectionism and treat yourself with more compassion? Even though nothing magically changes on January 1st, most of us like the idea of a fresh start. And the start of a new year is a natural time to look […]
It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated. It’s normal to want validation from others – your parents, spouse, boss, friends — but some of us seek external validation to an unhealthy level. We rely on others to make […]
Perfectionism is Self-Sabotage Sometimes we undermine our own health, happiness, and success without even realizing it. Are you unconsciously doing things that make it harder to achieve your goals? Are some of your personality traits or behaviors negatively impacting your relationships? Are you constantly stressed and exhausted? What is Perfectionism? Trying to do […]
Codependent thinking and behaviors can sabotage our health, happiness, and relationships. Here are some examples: Codependents neglect themselves in order to take care of others. Codependents lose their individuality trying to please others. Codependents don’t ask for what we need – and often don’t know what they want or need. Codependents get obsessed with other […]
Cutting ties with toxic famiy members is an act of self-care. Not something you do because you’re mean or spiteful. It’s something you do to protect your physical and mental health. It’s never easy to cut someone out of your life. And when it comes to family, it’s especially hard to accept that a […]
The difference between excellence and perfection People often confuse perfectionism with excellence. When we strive for excellence, we have high standards. And in general, there’s nothing wrong with having high standards. In fact, it can be a good thing. High standards can encourage us to make improvements, solve problems and do quality work. Perfectionism, […]
What’s the difference between healthy caregiving and codependent caretaking? It’s natural to express love by taking care of others, especially when you see a loved one struggling or hurting. However, the difference between codependency and caring isn’t clear. Certainly, not all caregiving is bad or unhealthy. When trying to determine if our caretaking is […]
We usually think of personal boundaries as a way to communicate our needs to others; a way to tell them how we want to be treated. But we also need boundaries with ourselves. Boundaries are guidelines or limits An integral part of being a responsible adult is establishing limits for ourselves – making […]
What is codependency? Codependency is a broad term and it can manifest in a variety of ways. Below are some of the most common symptoms of codependency. You don’t need to have them all to consider yourself codependent. I find it’s helpful to think of codependency on a spectrum – some of us experience more […]
Have you been short-changing yourself on self-care, saying critical or hurtful things to yourself, or setting unrealistic expectations for yourself? Are you ready to embrace your worthiness and start treating yourself with love? Why You Need Self-Love Loving ourselves and prioritizing our needs is often very challenging. Unfortunately, many of us didn’t receive […]