Perfectionists suck at self-care. We’re much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we’re so busy that we don’t even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we’re “good enough” is destroying our mental and physical health. Are You a Perfectionist? Perfectionists have impossibly high […]
Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships. What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you emotionally. Children […]
Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish. Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling […]
Perfectionism isn’t always about trying to be perfect. Learn about six hidden signs of perfectionism. Are you a perfectionist? The answer might not be as obvious as you think. When we think of perfectionists, we tend to think of people like Jo, Darren, and Pamela. Jo keeps an immaculate home. It looks more like a […]
The new year is a natural time to make changes and create new habits. We love the idea of making a fresh start in January, but most of us end up frustrated and disappointed just a few weeks into the new year. We all know from experience that putting ourselves on a radical budget or […]
We all know a person or two who’s overly dramatic. Perhaps it’s your mother or cousin, your coworker, or your neighbor. It’s draining to spend time with people who exude negative energy, always seem to have a problem or crisis, and demand your attention. Often, overly dramatic people, such as these, want to suck you […]
As Christmas and the New Year approach, it’s easy to get caught up in the frenzy — the sense that you must do more, spend more, be more. All of this pressure and unrealistic expectations can make it hard to fully enjoy the holidays. It keeps us busy and distracted from what matters […]
Are you familiar with the acronym JADE? It’s a reminder to not justify, argue, defend, and explain. If you’re you repeatedly drawn into conversations or arguments that seem to go nowhere, feel compelled to respond to accusations that you know are false, or feel like you have to justify your behavior or choices to a “difficult” […]
We live in a world with high levels of sensory input – loud movies, bright lights, crowds of people, the 24-hour news cycle, social media and technology that constantly interrupt and demand our attention. If you’re a highly sensitive or empathic person, this can be overwhelming and overstimulating, and leave you exhausted and […]
Fall is here and with it comes busier schedules, colder weather, and shorter days. In the blink of an eye, the holidays will be here, and we’ll be wrapping up another year. Autumn is a natural time for reflection and gratitude and it provides some special opportunities to use seasonal self-care ideas like the […]