What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love can help you. According to the […]
Why is it so hard to end codependent relationships? Codependency is a hard pattern to break. Even when you’re aware of it, it’s not uncommon to repeat the same type of codependent relationships, behaviors, and thoughts. This is in part because codependency is learned in childhood – so it’s well-practiced and feels natural. But […]
Are you self-critical and overly harsh with yourself? Or are you too permissive with yourself – not setting limits and allowing yourself to do things that are unhealthy or unsafe? Do you ignore your feelings, have trouble expressing your needs or regulating your emotions? Is it hard to treat yourself with love and compassion? […]
Are you experiencing insomnia due to COVID-19? How have you been sleeping? Are you having trouble sleeping or experiencing insomnia due to COVID-19 and the stress and uncertainty associated with the coronavirus outbreak? I’m fortunate that I don’t suffer from insomnia very often. But even I’ve been waking up in the middle of the […]
Perfectionist parents and demanding or controlling parents can causes perfectionism in their children. Learn about all 4 parenting styles that contribute to perfectionism. Are you a perfectionist – someone with impossibly high standards, who wants to please others, and is afraid of not measuring up? Sometimes, we mistakenly believe that perfectionism is the same […]
Do you over-apologize? Over-apologizing refers to saying “I’m sorry” when you don’t need to. This could be when you haven’t done anything wrong or you’re taking responsibility for someone else’s mistake or a problem that you didn’t cause or control. Here are a few examples of over-apologizing. The waiter brings you the wrong order […]
Self-care is Always Important Self-care includes all the things we do to maintain or improve our wellbeing. We all know how important basic self-care activities such as adequate sleep, exercise, healthy eating, hobbies, and spending time with friends are. And we know that when we don’t prioritize self-care, we feel lousy. Our health suffers. We […]
Would you like to increase your self-esteem in 2020? Do you want to reduce codependency and perfectionism and treat yourself with more compassion? Even though nothing magically changes on January 1st, most of us like the idea of a fresh start. And the start of a new year is a natural time to look […]
It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated. It’s normal to want validation from others – your parents, spouse, boss, friends — but some of us seek external validation to an unhealthy level. We rely on others to make […]
Perfectionism is Self-Sabotage Sometimes we undermine our own health, happiness, and success without even realizing it. Are you unconsciously doing things that make it harder to achieve your goals? Are some of your personality traits or behaviors negatively impacting your relationships? Are you constantly stressed and exhausted? What is Perfectionism? Trying to do […]