Tired of Trying to Please Everyone?

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Are you tired of trying to please everyone?

  Trying to please everyone is tiring. It’s also a waste of time! When you try to be all things to all people, no one is happy. You suffer because you give and give but don’t receive in return. Your health and well being are depleted and you eventually grow tired and resentful. And despite […]

Increase Happiness with 6 Positive Psychology Hacks

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Increase happiness with positive psychology

  Increase happiness Are you feeling discouraged about your health, your job, or the political climate in our country? Are you worried about a loved one who is struggling? Do you feel stuck in a toxic or unfulfilling relationship? Are you lonely or wondering if you’ll ever find the one? You’re certainly not alone in […]

Feel Your Feelings and Let Them Go

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Feel your feelings

  Do you try to avoid your feelings – especially your “negative feelings”? Are your feelings overwhelming? Do you regularly numb out with food, alcohol, or technology to avoid your feelings? Are you trapped by negative feelings that you can’t seem to shake? Or do you frequently feel numb or nothing? Feelings can certainly be […]

Is it Mean or Wrong to Set Boundaries?

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Is it mean or wrong to set boundaries?

  Has anyone told you that it’s mean or wrong to set boundaries? Well, one of the big reasons we avoid setting boundaries is that we mistakenly think they’re mean, harsh, and controlling. Often, we have these beliefs because others have reacted poorly to our boundaries in the past. If this has been your experience, let […]

The Difference between Having Needs and Being Needy

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The Difference between Having Needs and Being Needy

  Overcoming codependency and poor boundaries requires us to notice and value our personal needs, but many of us, understandably, deny our needs out of fear of being too needy. Codependency, people-pleasing, and boundary issues are rooted in our tendency to avoid our needs and feelings. Instead, we focus on taking care of other people’s […]

Codependents’ Guide to Detaching with Love

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Detaching with Love

  What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love can help you. According to the […]

7 Reasons It’s Hard to End Codependent Relationships

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7 Reasons it's Hard to End Codependent Relationships

  Why is it so hard to end codependent relationships? Codependency is a hard pattern to break. Even when you’re aware of it, it’s not uncommon to repeat the same type of codependent relationships, behaviors, and thoughts.  This is in part because codependency is learned in childhood – so it’s well-practiced and feels natural. But […]

How to Reparent Yourself

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How to Reparent Yourself

  Are you self-critical and overly harsh with yourself? Or are you too permissive with yourself – not setting limits and allowing yourself to do things that are unhealthy or unsafe? Do you ignore your feelings, have trouble expressing your needs or regulating your emotions? Is it hard to treat yourself with love and compassion? […]

Insomnia In Times of Stress, Uncertainty, and COVID-19

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Insomnia In Times of Stress, Uncertainty, and COVID-19

  Are you experiencing insomnia due to COVID-19? How have you been sleeping? Are you having trouble sleeping or experiencing insomnia due to COVID-19 and the stress and uncertainty associated with the coronavirus outbreak? I’m fortunate that I don’t suffer from insomnia very often. But even I’ve been waking up in the middle of the […]

Parenting Styles that Contribute to Perfectionism

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Is your parenting style causing perfectionism?

Perfectionist parents and demanding or controlling parents can causes perfectionism in their children. Learn about all 4 parenting styles that contribute to perfectionism.   Are you a perfectionist – someone with impossibly high standards, who wants to please others, and is afraid of not measuring up? Sometimes, we mistakenly believe that perfectionism is the same […]