Perfectionist Quiz

Are you a perfectionist? Take the perfectionist quiz and find out!

Are You a Perfectionist?

Please note: This quiz is designed to provide you with new insights about yourself. It is not based on research and is not empirically valid.


You have impossibly high standards for yourself.


You’re sensitive to criticism and try to avoid it.


Your expectations are often unrealistic leading to disappointment or frustration.


You crave organization, lists, planners, charts, and data.


You try to avoid making mistakes at all costs and tend to see them as evidence of your inferiority rather than as learning opportunities.


You dwell on your mistakes and imperfections.


You base your worth as a person on your accomplishments.


Even when you succeed you feel like it’s not enough or you could have done better.


You’d rather do things yourself than have someone else do them “wrong”.


Sometimes it takes you a long time to finish things because you redo, check, and try to make them perfect.


You worry about what people think of you.


You procrastinate or don’t start things because you don’t think you can do them perfectly.


A change of plans can be very upsetting to you.


You don’t like to try new things, especially when there’s a chance of embarrassment, incompetence, or not being as good as everyone else.


You work long hours (paid work, volunteer work, housework, family responsibilities) and sacrifice leisure activities because your work is never done.


You think that if you’re really smart or talented, you wouldn’t have to work so hard.


You demand a lot of others.


You rarely take a sick day.


You’re frequently disappointed because people fail to meet your expectations.


You want to feel in control at all times.


Despite many signs of success, you don’t actually feel successful.


You tend to feel tense, stressed, or anxious.

Sharon Martin is a psychotherapist, writer, speaker, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. She specializes in helping people uncover their inherent worth and learn to accept themselves -- imperfections and all! Sharon is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance, and several ebooks including: Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: A Workbook to Move You From Doormat to Empowerment, Navigating the Codependency Maze, and she writes a popular blog called Happily Imperfect for

11 thoughts on “Perfectionist Quiz

    1. Hi Mary,
      My book doesn’t target suicidal thoughts. There are other CBT books that address depression and suicidal thoughts that might be more helpful. And if you need immediate support please utilize a suicide crisis line such as the National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-TALK.

  1. Hi. Thank you. I found out on your quiz I scored pretty well and that’s not bad for it being a challenge for me that I’ve learned to overcome. I also see you mentioned most of what I have struggled with in the past. I see you’ve also mentioned self/toxic shame and boundaries I am working on that as well. Seems like I am being challenged one day after the next which is a challenge but it is exhausting after awhile in itself, not too far from perfectionism itself. I live with a mentally ill relative and boundaries are a must because has been stressing my mother and I out and then I am also working on toxic/self-shame so looking into optimism. Any tips for any other challenges including self-shame and/or self-destructive behavior including helplessness/perfectionism besides looking into optimism? Any other resources/advice/links? Please help. I’m learning to break free from my (and I’m calling it for a lack of a better word) Old/bad comfort zone so I feel better, happier learning it’s okay to have fun and be happy (including enjoying little things) and so I don’t shame myself as a result not and not take things so seriously/internalize as negative/shame from one negative/bad experience to the next in my what feels like chaotic far from peace of mind and harmony-life, feeling stressful life right now even if I realize half-glass temporary. What do you reccomend for someone like me trying to overcome all these challenges? Basically i’m trying to for a lack of a better word, reprogram positive reinforcement. Just this and optimism, much help needed please. Looking forward to hearing from you. Thanks.

  2. Lately I have been having a really hard time dealing with many things in my life. Searching the internet, asking questions, I came to realize it is possible that I am that adult child from a dysfunctional family. My dad was an alcoholic and my mom worked and I just was here and there and wherever. I did poorly in school, marriage, work and just keep on making bad decisions. I currently have been taking care of my mom with parkinsons dementhia and now I am feeling I can no longer do this (8 years). I am trying so hard to keep her home like she always wanted, but I need help, taking care of me and finding myself so I can leave peacefully. I feel selfish, horrible guilt, anxiety, and cannot sleep much with worry about my mom. I really pray I can find peace and a balance in my life where I can breathe and relax. I dont even know how to relax…

  3. As a “recovering perfectionist” for 30+ years…I enjoy your writing, tools and information to make life a little softer & hopefully easier!

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