Perfectionist Quiz

Are you a perfectionist? Take the perfectionist quiz and find out!

Are You a Perfectionist?

Please note: This quiz is designed to provide you with new insights about yourself. It is not based on research and is not empirically valid.

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You have impossibly high standards for yourself.

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You’re sensitive to criticism and try to avoid it.

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Your expectations are often unrealistic leading to disappointment or frustration.

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You crave organization, lists, planners, charts, and data.

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You try to avoid making mistakes at all costs and tend to see them as evidence of your inferiority rather than as learning opportunities.

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You dwell on your mistakes and imperfections.

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You base your worth as a person on your accomplishments.

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Even when you succeed you feel like it’s not enough or you could have done better.

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You’d rather do things yourself than have someone else do them “wrong”.

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Sometimes it takes you a long time to finish things because you redo, check, and try to make them perfect.

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You worry about what people think of you.

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You procrastinate or don’t start things because you don’t think you can do them perfectly.

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A change of plans can be very upsetting to you.

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You don’t like to try new things, especially when there’s a chance of embarrassment, incompetence, or not being as good as everyone else.

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You work long hours (paid work, volunteer work, housework, family responsibilities) and sacrifice leisure activities because your work is never done.

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You think that if you’re really smart or talented, you wouldn’t have to work so hard.

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You demand a lot of others.

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You rarely take a sick day.

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You’re frequently disappointed because people fail to meet your expectations.

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You want to feel in control at all times.

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Despite many signs of success, you don’t actually feel successful.

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You tend to feel tense, stressed, or anxious.

Sharon Martin is a psychotherapist, writer, speaker, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. She specializes in helping people uncover their inherent worth and learn to accept themselves -- imperfections and all! Sharon writes a popular blog called Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance and several ebooks including Navigating the Codependency Maze.

17 thoughts on “Perfectionist Quiz

    1. Hi Mary,
      My book doesn’t target suicidal thoughts. There are other CBT books that address depression and suicidal thoughts that might be more helpful. And if you need immediate support please utilize a suicide crisis line such as the National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-TALK.

  1. Hi. Thank you. I found out on your quiz I scored pretty well and that’s not bad for it being a challenge for me that I’ve learned to overcome. I also see you mentioned most of what I have struggled with in the past. I see you’ve also mentioned self/toxic shame and boundaries I am working on that as well. Seems like I am being challenged one day after the next which is a challenge but it is exhausting after awhile in itself, not too far from perfectionism itself. I live with a mentally ill relative and boundaries are a must because has been stressing my mother and I out and then I am also working on toxic/self-shame so looking into optimism. Any tips for any other challenges including self-shame and/or self-destructive behavior including helplessness/perfectionism besides looking into optimism? Any other resources/advice/links? Please help. I’m learning to break free from my (and I’m calling it for a lack of a better word) Old/bad comfort zone so I feel better, happier learning it’s okay to have fun and be happy (including enjoying little things) and so I don’t shame myself as a result not and not take things so seriously/internalize as negative/shame from one negative/bad experience to the next in my what feels like chaotic far from peace of mind and harmony-life, feeling stressful life right now even if I realize half-glass temporary. What do you reccomend for someone like me trying to overcome all these challenges? Basically i’m trying to for a lack of a better word, reprogram positive reinforcement. Just this and optimism, much help needed please. Looking forward to hearing from you. Thanks.

  2. Lately I have been having a really hard time dealing with many things in my life. Searching the internet, asking questions, I came to realize it is possible that I am that adult child from a dysfunctional family. My dad was an alcoholic and my mom worked and I just was here and there and wherever. I did poorly in school, marriage, work and just keep on making bad decisions. I currently have been taking care of my mom with parkinsons dementhia and now I am feeling I can no longer do this (8 years). I am trying so hard to keep her home like she always wanted, but I need help, taking care of me and finding myself so I can leave peacefully. I feel selfish, horrible guilt, anxiety, and cannot sleep much with worry about my mom. I really pray I can find peace and a balance in my life where I can breathe and relax. I dont even know how to relax…

    1. I have been doing all of the same things for my own mother, albeit for 3 years. You are still (I am guessing) her main point person and POA. ) PLEASE GET THE HELP YOU NEED!!! DON’T WAIT FOR A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN, BEFORE TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF, LIKE I DID!!! TRUE that you cannot pour into an empty cup. D-

    2. I was not surprised at all by my score, it was spot on. I grew up with an alcoholic Dad and a codependent Mom. I love and miss them both, RIP My life has always been pretty difficult and I am still learning at the age of 58. I have taken care of both my Mom and Dad for the past 12 years. My mom passed 2 years ago, and my dad just in June 2019. He had Lewy body Dementia with sundowners. This story rings so true with me. Thanks for sharing this, it is appreciated.

    3. To Gina, do not ever feel guilty about getting help for your parents and for yourself. It gets very hectic, stressful, sad, and exhausting when you are caring for others and it affects your health. My brother and I just did this for 12 years with our parents. We did the best that we could. We had to put my dad in a home as he had Lewy body dementia and it is a very hard thing. It is hard to find top notch, trustworthy,caring people to take care of our loved ones at this point. Do what you need to do to give yourself a break, but please check the place out that she will go to. Do not feel selfish by doing something for yourself and for your mom. I just lost my dad in June, and the home he was in is now closed down, for reasons I will not say. So please still love and cherish your mom even when she is not in just your care. Prays for you 🙏🏻

  3. As a “recovering perfectionist” for 30+ years…I enjoy your writing, tools and information to make life a little softer & hopefully easier!

  4. Darn, that quiz was accurate! I like to think of myself as a recovering perfectionist like others who have posted comments here, but perfectionism still makes my life very difficult at times. I have very high standards for myself and work in human services, so when there’s a difficult situation to address, I tend to be very hard on myself. I’m working on separating myself from work more often and enforcing boundaries between what is my responsibility and what belongs to other people. I love all of Sharon’s posts and they usually resonate with me deeply. I really enjoy getting the weekly e-mail. The site feels supportive without being judgmental. Thank you for being there!

  5. Hi thank you so much , well i scored 40 and its true i believe in perfection when something is wrong i feel bad and some people take advantage of that and i don’t like it with all my heart. And the way i was raised by my step mother,step brothers and was a terrible one .

  6. Dear Sharon, I knew that my score would be bad. Because when I was beat up when i was a baby! I was also mentally,physically,vocally,and traumatized before i was even 5 years old. Whipped with leather belts bare skin,hair pulled and picked up with it screaming for help at 3. I developed epilepsy at 4 after seeing the trauma plus being traumatized. My families kept this up all my life. Now i have 10 brain damages.They say that at i,m like a 14 yr. old at times I don’t know what to believe.Everything was always my fault,i couldn’t work so i had to do everything if it wasn’t the way they wanted i was scalded to get out or go to my room in my late teens & early 20’s.My seizures are held against me by some family members and still being told that i a jerk & stupid and more. I was even locked up in hospitals for suicide. I still feel at times that i’m no good.. My brother is a narcissist to me.Even after all the work i did for her i never can drive. so she said as my brother could drive he got in the truck he backed up to us and said to me i don’t need you anymore i have your brother at least can go to the store for me and you can’t. I said not even what i do for you counts she said why should it. He will do it with no trouble. I was so insulted that i said thank you now why don’t you let him do them instead of me. She said all i have to do is get your father to beat you up again.

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