Being close to your family is usually a good thing, but it’s possible to be too close. Enmeshment describes family relationships that lack boundaries such that roles and expectations are confused, parents are overly and inappropriately reliant on their children for support, and children are not allowed to become emotionally independent or separate from […]
Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve believed […]
Before anybody else can love you, you have to love yourself You’ve heard this many times before. But what does it mean to love yourself? And how do you actually love yourself? For various reasons, many of us find it easier to love others than to love ourselves. Sometimes we’re truly quite awful to […]
Losing your sense of self Do you seem to get swallowed up in relationships? Does your sense of self disappear when you’re in a relationship? This “loss of self” happens, whether you’ve been married for decades or are newly dating, when the other person or relationship becomes your identity. You become all about the other person. […]
What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is the practice of staying in the moment, of being in the here and now rather than focused on the past or the future. Many of us aren’t fully experiencing our lives because we’re spending so much time worrying about the future or ruminating about the past. Our busy lives keep […]
Are you drawn to people with serious problems, who tend to “under function”? Do you feel lonely in your relationships? Do you feel like no one listens to you or no one cares about you? Are you tired of having the same arguments over and over again? Do you feel invisible or insignificant? Do […]