Choose Yourself: You Matter

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Choose Yourself Because You Matter

  Do you back down from your boundaries and allow others to mistreat you? Do you ignore your needs so you can satisfy someone else’s needs? Do you ignore or minimize your feelings? Do you skip self-care because you’re busy taking care of everyone else and think you can do without? In other words, do […]

Is it Mean or Wrong to Set Boundaries?

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Is it mean or wrong to set boundaries?

  Has anyone told you that it’s mean or wrong to set boundaries? Well, one of the big reasons we avoid setting boundaries is that we mistakenly think they’re mean, harsh, and controlling. Often, we have these beliefs because others have reacted poorly to our boundaries in the past. If this has been your experience, let […]

The Difference between Having Needs and Being Needy

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The Difference between Having Needs and Being Needy

  Overcoming codependency and poor boundaries requires us to notice and value our personal needs, but many of us, understandably, deny our needs out of fear of being too needy. Codependency, people-pleasing, and boundary issues are rooted in our tendency to avoid our needs and feelings. Instead, we focus on taking care of other people’s […]

Codependents’ Guide to Detaching with Love

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Detaching with Love

  What is detaching with love? Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love can help you. According to the […]

7 Reasons It’s Hard to End Codependent Relationships

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7 Reasons it's Hard to End Codependent Relationships

  Why is it so hard to end codependent relationships? Codependency is a hard pattern to break. Even when you’re aware of it, it’s not uncommon to repeat the same type of codependent relationships, behaviors, and thoughts.  This is in part because codependency is learned in childhood – so it’s well-practiced and feels natural. But […]

The Difference Between Codependency and Caring

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The Difference Between Codependency and Caring

What’s the difference between healthy caregiving and codependent caretaking?   It’s natural to express love by taking care of others, especially when you see a loved one struggling or hurting. However, the difference between codependency and caring isn’t clear. Certainly, not all caregiving is bad or unhealthy. When trying to determine if our caretaking is […]

Break the Pattern of Codependent Relationships

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Break the Pattern of Codependent Relationships

What is codependency? Codependency is a broad term and it can manifest in a variety of ways. Below are some of the most common symptoms of codependency. You don’t need to have them all to consider yourself codependent. I find it’s helpful to think of codependency on a spectrum – some of us experience more […]

5 Tips That Make Setting Boundaries Easier

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5 tips that make setting boundaries easier

Setting boundaries can be hard! Do you struggle to set boundaries? Well, you’re not alone. Mental health professionals and self-help gurus put a lot of emphasis on boundaries because they’re the foundation of healthy relationships and a strong sense of self-worth. Boundaries serve two main functions: Boundaries tell others how you want to be treated […]