What Are Boundaries and Why Do I Need Them?

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What are boundaries and why do I need them?

What are boundaries? All relationships need boundaries. A boundary is an imaginary line that separates me from you. They separate your physical space, your feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others. Your boundaries also tell other people how they can treat you – what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Without boundaries, people may take advantage of you […]

What is Codependency?

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What is Codependency?

    Codependency is often misunderstood. It’s not just a label to slap on the spouse of every alcoholic. It encompasses a wide-range of behavior and thought patterns that cause people distress to varying degrees. I hope this article will help clear up some of the misconceptions about codependency and help you to understand codependency better.   […]

How to Set Boundaries with Toxic People

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How to Set Boundaries with Toxic People

It isn’t easy to set boundaries with toxic people, but it’s something we can all learn to do and when we do, it’s empowering.   Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. When we set boundaries, we’re less angry and resentful because our needs are getting met. Boundaries make our expectations clear, so […]

Tips for Coping with the Holidays

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Tips for Coping with the Holidays. 5 printable PDF tip sheets to help you conquer perfectionism, difficult family members, stress, overwhelm, and depression.

    Introducing 5 New Holiday Tip Sheets from Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert Sharon Martin, LCSW   Are you dreading the holidays because of difficult people in your life? Do you tend to get stressed, sad, or overwhelmed during December? Do you want to set a positive tone for the holiday season? Would it be […]

Should I Leave a Toxic Relationship?

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Should I leave a toxic relationship

Deciding whether to end a relationship is a big decision. In fact, it’s one of the things I see people struggle with the most as a therapist. For a codependent, the decision to leave a toxic or addicted partner is especially hard. You’ve tried and tried, but things don’t ever seem to get better (or […]

5 Triggers That Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse

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5 Triggers that Can Lead to Drug Abuse Relapse, substance abuse relapse, alcoholism, codependency

Overcoming any addiction requires a lifelong commitment to recovery. The road is a long one, and for many people, the prospect of seeking treatment is a bleak one. According to the American Addiction Centers, up to 90% of the people who struggle with addiction do not receive the treatment they need. Even those people who […]

The Generational Effects of Codependency

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Generational Effects of Codependency. Codependency is passed down from generation to generation. It's possible to be codependent if you had a normal childhood.

Codependency is most often the result of childhood trauma.  But many readers have written to me, confused because they’re codependent and had a “normal” childhood. “I don’t understand why I’m codependent. I’ve read your posts, but I didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional family. How did this happen?” “Is it possible to be codependent if […]