Tired of Trying to Please Everyone?

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Are you tired of trying to please everyone?

  Trying to please everyone is tiring. It’s also a waste of time! When you try to be all things to all people, no one is happy. You suffer because you give and give but don’t receive in return. Your health and well being are depleted and you eventually grow tired and resentful. And despite […]

Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

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Healing the psychological effects of abandonment

  Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships.   What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you […]

Release Mother’s Day Guilt

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Release Mother's Day Guilt. Moms can give up mother's day guilt, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and reclaim mother's day.

  Moms, you deserve to reclaim Mother’s Day and make it a day that truly makes you happy. Mother’s Day is often filled with angst and guilt and conflict. Mothers are particularly good at taking care of everyone else, wanting to please people, keep the peace, and simply putting themselves last. And some Moms have […]

How to Reclaim Your Self-Worth

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How to Reclaim Your Self Worth

  Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve […]

How to Love Yourself: 22 Simple Ideas

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A woman learning to love herself with self-compassion

  Loving yourself can be one of the hardest, yet most important things you’ll ever do. What does it mean to love yourself? And how do you actually love yourself? For various reasons, many of us find it easier to love others than to love ourselves. Sometimes we’re truly quite awful to ourselves. We subject ourselves […]

What is Codependency?

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What is Codependency?

    Codependency is often misunderstood. It’s not just a label to slap on the spouse of every alcoholic. It encompasses a wide-range of behavior and thought patterns that cause people distress to varying degrees. I hope this article will help clear up some of the misconceptions about codependency and help you to understand codependency better.   […]

5 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Compassion

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5 Simple Ways to Practice Self Compassion

  Are you self-critical? It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-criticism. Often, we don’t even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves with harsh criticisms that we’d never use towards others.   Self-criticism becomes hardwired into your brain Self-criticism is like a bad habit – the more we do it, the more it gets […]

How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self in Relationships

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How to Maintain a Strong Sense of Self and Not Lose Yourself in Relationships

Losing your sense of self Do you seem to get swallowed up in relationships? Does your sense of self disappear when you’re in a relationship? This “loss of self” happens, whether you’ve been married for decades or are newly dating, when the other person or relationship becomes your identity. You become all about the other person. […]

Tips for Coping with the Holidays

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Tips for Coping with the Holidays. 5 printable PDF tip sheets to help you conquer perfectionism, difficult family members, stress, overwhelm, and depression.

Introducing 5 New Holiday Tip Sheets from Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert Sharon Martin, LCSW Are you dreading the holidays because of difficult people in your life? Do you tend to get stressed, sad, or overwhelmed during December? Do you want to set a positive tone for the holiday season? Would it be helpful to keep […]