Choose Excellence Not Perfection

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Choose Excellence Not Perfection

  The difference between excellence and perfection People often confuse perfectionism with excellence. When we strive for excellence, we have high standards. And in general, there’s nothing wrong with having high standards. In fact, it can be a good thing. High standards can encourage us to make improvements, solve problems and do quality work. Perfectionism, […]

34 Affirmations for Perfectionism

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Affirmations can help change perfectionist thinking

  What is perfectionism? Perfectionism – the relentless pursuit of being flawless in an effort to prove our worth and avoid criticism — adds unnecessary stress and pressure to our already demanding lives. When we strive for perfection rather than excellence, we’re never satisfied. We always feel deficient because we’re comparing ourselves to an impossible […]

The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us (and 6 Truths Every Perfectionist Needs to Know)

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The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us. Myths about perfectionism lead us to believe perfectionism is an asset.

  Perfectionism seems straightforward, but it’s often misunderstood. Many people think perfectionism helps them achieve their goals and get better results. American culture continues to encourage perfectionism despite all of the research that indicates perfectionism is associated with increased anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, eating disorders, relationship and health problems.* The fallacy that perfectionism is helpful […]

A Therapist’s Guide to Stop Overthinking

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A Therapist's Guide to Stop Overthinking and Worrying #anxiety #worry #overthinking

What is overthinking? Do you spend countless hours rehashing mistakes you made? Do you worry about what others think of you? Do you struggle to make decisions — and get caught up in excessive researching in an effort to make the right decision? This is overthinking — a form of uncontrollable worry or rumination. It […]

Is Perfectionism Sabotaging Your Self-Care?

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Is perfectionism sabotaging your self-care? Don't let guilt and perfectionism impede your self-care.

  Perfectionists suck at self-care. We’re much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we’re so busy that we don’t even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we’re “good enough” is destroying our mental and physical health. Are You a Perfectionist? Perfectionists have impossibly high […]

Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

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Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

  Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships.   What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you […]

6 Ways to Change All-Or-Nothing Thinking

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6 Ways to Change All-or-Nothing Thinking and Cognitive Distortions

Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish. Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling […]