Is Perfectionism Sabotaging Your Self-Care?

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Is perfectionism sabotaging your self-care? Don't let guilt and perfectionism impede your self-care.

  Perfectionists suck at self-care. We’re much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we’re so busy that we don’t even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we’re “good enough” is destroying our mental and physical health. Are You a Perfectionist? Perfectionists have impossibly high […]

Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

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Healing the Psychological Effects of Abandonment

Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood and make it difficult for us to form healthy, trusting relationships. What is emotional abandonment? Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you emotionally. Children […]

6 Ways to Change All-Or-Nothing Thinking

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6 Ways to Change All-or-Nothing Thinking and Cognitive Distortions

Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish. Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling […]

Release Mother’s Day Guilt

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Release Mother's Day Guilt. Moms can give up mother's day guilt, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and reclaim mother's day.

  Moms, you deserve to reclaim Mother’s Day and make it a day that truly makes you happy. Mother’s Day is often filled with angst and guilt and conflict. Mothers are particularly good at taking care of everyone else, wanting to please people, keep the peace, and simply putting themselves last. And some Moms have […]

How to Reclaim Your Self-Worth

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How to Reclaim Your Self Worth

Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve believed […]

Tips for Coping with the Holidays

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Tips for Coping with the Holidays. 5 printable PDF tip sheets to help you conquer perfectionism, difficult family members, stress, overwhelm, and depression.

    Introducing 5 New Holiday Tip Sheets from Psychotherapist and Codependency Expert Sharon Martin, LCSW   Are you dreading the holidays because of difficult people in your life? Do you tend to get stressed, sad, or overwhelmed during December? Do you want to set a positive tone for the holiday season? Would it be […]

Perfectionism and OCD: What’s the Difference?

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What's the Difference Between Perfectionism and OCD? Understand Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Perfectionism, and Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

I’m often asked what the difference is between perfectionism and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). It’s actually a fairly complex question and one that realistically this article will only be able to address on the surface. This article isn’t meant to diagnose any mental conditions and isn’t an exhaustive study of OCD or any other mental […]

6 Effective Ways to Deal with Criticism

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6 Effective Ways to Deal with Criticism

Nobody likes criticism, but some of us are particularly sensitive to it. Do you take it personally if your boss tells you to be quiet during a meeting? Does it ruin your day if someone gives you a judgmental glare when your child throws a tantrum? Do you feel like a failure when a  client rejects […]