Accepting What We Can’t Control

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Accepting What We Can’t Control

  How to cope when life doesn’t go as planned.   Life rarely goes according to plan. I used to think I could make a plan, work hard, and accomplish what I’d set out to do. I’m a planner. I like routines and consistency. I like to know what’s going to happen. I like it […]

End a Relationship without Feeling Guilty

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How to End a Relationship without Feeling Guilty

  Guilt keeps many people stuck in dysfunctional or codependent relationships because they prioritize other people’s needs and happiness above their own.   Generally, we hope or expect that relationships will last forever. We idealize close family ties, soulmates, and decades-long friendships. But sometimes this unrealistic expectation – that our relationships should last forever — […]

Learning to Trust Yourself Again

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Learning to Trust Yourself Again After a Toxic Relationship

  Healing from an unhealthy or toxic relationship involves learning to trust yourself again.   Unhealthy relationships erode your ability to trust yourself Unhealthy or toxic relationships can destroy your trust in others. For example, if your partner cheated on you or called you derogatory names, it makes sense that you may have trouble trusting […]

Toxic Shame and How to Overcome It

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Healing from Toxic Shame

  What is toxic shame? Shame is often confused with guilt. Sometimes we use the terms interchangeably, but they mean different things. Guilt is the bad feeling you have when you’ve done something wrong. And if you’ve actually done something wrong, like run into your neighbor’s car, then you should feel bad. Guilt, in this […]

Increase Happiness with 6 Positive Psychology Hacks

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Increase happiness with positive psychology

  Increase happiness Are you feeling discouraged about your health, your job, or the political climate in our country? Are you worried about a loved one who is struggling? Do you feel stuck in a toxic or unfulfilling relationship? Are you lonely or wondering if you’ll ever find the one? You’re certainly not alone in […]

How to Stay Motivated Through the Ups and Downs of Change

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How to Stay Motivated #motivation #personalgrowth #change #healing

  Whether you’re healing from a traumatic event, coping with yet another depressive episode, or trying to become a better parent, you know that progress rarely happens in a straight line. Intentional growth and healing are the results of hard work – often over an extended period of time. Positive changes don’t “just happen” and […]

9 Practical Ways to Love Yourself

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Practical Ways to Love Yourself and practice self-compassion

  Life can be hard. We all screw up sometimes. We get frustrated and lose our temper. We regret things said or left unsaid. Our children struggle with learning disabilities or anxiety or any number of things. We hurt deep inside about harm caused to us as children. Our loved ones die. We get laid-off […]

How to Reclaim Your Self-Worth

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How to Reclaim Your Self Worth

  Why do you feel unworthy? So many of us feel unworthy. We feel like we’re not good enough, like we don’t fit in, and like we don’t matter. We’re overly self-critical, fixating on our flaws and failures. We think we need to be perfect and successful in order to have value. For years we’ve […]