Toxic Shame and How to Overcome It

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Healing from Toxic Shame

  What is toxic shame? Shame is often confused with guilt. Sometimes we use the terms interchangeably, but they mean different things. Guilt is the bad feeling you have when you’ve done something wrong. And if you’ve actually done something wrong, like run into your neighbor’s car, then you should feel bad. Guilt, in this […]

The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us (and 6 Truths Every Perfectionist Needs to Know)

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The Lies Perfectionism Tells Us. Myths about perfectionism lead us to believe perfectionism is an asset.

  Perfectionism seems straightforward, but it’s often misunderstood. Many people think perfectionism helps them achieve their goals and get better results. American culture continues to encourage perfectionism despite all of the research that indicates perfectionism is associated with increased anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, eating disorders, relationship and health problems.* The fallacy that perfectionism is helpful […]

9 Ways to Stop Self-Critical Perfectionist Thinking

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9 Ways to Stop Self-Critical Perfectionist Thinking

  Pressure to be perfect So many of us feel intense pressures to achieve more, do more, and be more. We live in a technology-driven society that never stops. We’re constantly bombarded with the “my life is perfect” messages found on social media. It’s no wonder that so many of us are self-critical perfectionists who […]

5 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Compassion

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5 Simple Ways to Practice Self Compassion

  Are you self-critical? It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self-criticism. Often, we don’t even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves with harsh criticisms that we’d never use towards others.   Self-criticism becomes hardwired into your brain Self-criticism is like a bad habit – the more we do it, the more it gets […]